tudung....

Bertudung? Kau Sudah Bertudung?
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Sudah hampir setahun aku memakai tudung. Dan selama setahun juga soalan dan kata-kata ini diajukan padaku:

“Wah, dah bertudung! Kenapa kau bertudung?”.
“Apa mimpi kau bertudung?”
“Baguslah kau dah insaf, macam poyo!”.
“Macam baik sangat pakai tudung.”.
“Aku rasa kau lagi cantik tak bertudung”.
“Bertudung bukan untuk orang kampung je ke?”

Macam-macam kerenah telah ku jumpa, tapi paling best sekali yang berkata begini pada ku,
“Baru MASUK ISLAM ke kak?”.

Dan kenapa aku memilih untuk bertudung? Biar aku kongsikan bersama mengapa aku bertudung.


Peristiwa Pertama

Hampir setahun lalu, aku duduk berhampiran tingkap, memandang ke luar. Aku melihat burung-burung yang berterbangan dan awan yang biru di kaki langit. Tiba-tiba hatiku berdetik, kalau suatu hari nanti jika aku ditimpa masalah macam mana ye? Adakah kawan-kawanku akan bersama denganku? Atau mereka akan menjauhkan diri?

Hampir sejam aku memikirkan jawapannya. Dan dengan itu, hatiku berdetik, apabila aku dilanda masalah, kawan-kawanku mungkin lari, tetapi Allah sentiasa bersamaku. Dia sentiasa bersama hamba-hambanya.



"..cukuplah Allah menjadi penolong kami dan Allah adalah sebaik-baik pelindung, maka mereka kembali dengan nikmat dan kurnia (yang besar) daripada Allah, mereka tidak mendapat bencana apa-apa, mereka mengikuti keredhaan Allah. Dan Allah mempunyai kurnia yang besar."
(Ali -Imran:173-174)


Peristiwa Kedua

Aku membaca sebuah berita kematian. Seorang pemuda, yang lebih muda dariku, meninggal dunia (sebab kematian tidak diingati). Hatiku berdetik, bagaimana aku kelak di dalam kubur, pasti aku diazab dengan azab yang paling pedih. Kerana amalanku tidak sebagus mana.


Peristiwa Ketiga

Aku melihat berita di televisyen. Kisah seorang remaja wanita yang rosak akhlaknya. Aku melihat, ibubapa remaja tersebut menangis semahu-mahunya megenang perilaku anaknya. Aku menjadi sebak. Lantas terdetik di hatiku, bagaimana anakku kelak, akan beginikah sikapnya nanti?

Rentetan-rentetan ini yang membuka hatiku untuk bertudung. Agar aku mendapat keredhaan Allah. Apabila aku bertudung aku merasa ketenangan. Ketenangan yang ku cari selama ini. Diriku tidak sempurna mana, kerana aku insan biasa, yang punya kelemahan, yang punya kekurangan. Aku masih memperbaiki kelemahan diri. Dekatkanlah diri dengan penciptamu, kerana di situ ketenanganmu. Peganglah pada tali yang satu, tali agamamu, kerana tali agamamu tidak akan putus dan ia akan membantumu.

Jadi selepas ini, aku berharap tidak akan ada lagi yang bertanya mengapa aku bertudung. Sebaliknya, ucapkanlah Alhamdullilah apabila melihat perubahanku.


*Sumber: Dipetik Daripada Blog Penulis

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Mengapa wanita memerlukan lelaki dlm hidupnya?

WANITA DAN LELAKI SALING MELENGKAPI




Wanita tidak semestinya memerlukan lelaki, tetapi wanita dan lelaki saling memerlukan, cinta itu anugerah. Mengapa wanita memerlukan lelaki di dalam hidupnya? Untuk beberapa waktu dahulu, ia begitu memukul-mukul kepala. Ya, apa perlu seorang wanita yang bebas mempertaruhkan sebahagian besar hidupnya kepada tangan seorang lelaki? Bukankah lebih hebat jalan dihujung minggu bersama kawan rapat, berkenyit-kenyitan mata kepada lelaki kacak yang saling tidak putus dan tidak lokek senyum tanda salam perkenalan.

Saya mempunyai seorang rakan, sederhana cantik, tidak terlalu kurus tidak terlalu gemuk, tidak terlalu buruk, tidak terlalu jelita, manisnya ada, santunnya memikat orang tua, beragama juga kerana selalu sahaja diceritakan dia terhendap-hendap membawa sejadah masuk ke bilik stor kecil untuk solat, dan dia sentiasa cuba gembira dengan kehidupannya yang solo. Tetapi saya fikir, saya faham apa yang berputar-putar dalam kepalanya. Dia tidak dapat berdusta betapa kebahagiaan cinta kawan-kawan membuatnya cemburu, dan membuatnya selalu terfikir-fikir: Apalah perasaan gadis yang dipuja dan dicintai hebat oleh seorang lelaki.

Kawan, saya harap dia membaca artikel ini. Cinta tidak datang dipaksa-paksa. Cinta tidak juga datang kala kita mahukannya. Jika kita mahukan ia menjadi air, ia datang seperti api.Tetapi, jika kita bersabar dan menerima ketentuan Tuhan, seorang lelaki yang baik akan didatangkan kepada kita juga. Lelaki yang baik itu tidak turun dari langit. Lelaki yang baik itu juga tidak semestinya datang dengan kepala berketayap, janggut selambak atau harta membuak-buak.

Tetapi lelaki yang baik, jika Tuhan mahukan dia menemani kita sepanjang hayat, membimbing kelakuan kita, menjaga kemurnian kalbu bersama-sama, mendidik, membuka jalan agar kita dapat memperdalam selok belok agama yang barangkali selama ini hanya menjadi pakaian dan lencana, dan memberikan kita zuriat yang halal lagi dirahmatiNya. Dia akan datang apabila tiba masanya. Lambat atau cepat, maafkan saya, kerana Allah itu yang lebih mengetahui.

Kawan, kedatangan seorang lelaki dalam kehidupan seorang wanita seperti manusia kudung yang diberikan semula sebelah kakinya. Dia menyempurnakan kita. Namun, tidak kira semasyhuk mana sekalipun perkasihan dua jantina, selain perkara yang cantik-cantik dan molek-molek, kita, wanita, harus bersedia menerima kehodohan-kehodohan perhubungan. Kerana apabila kita mempersilakan seorang lelaki duduk di samping kita untuk sepanjang hayat, bererti kita harus langsung juga mempersilakan sekian masalahnya berbaring di bahu kita.

Kerana itu tidak hairan jika kita mendengar ada di kalangan kita, gadis, yang merungut-rungut kerana tanggungjawabnya terhadap keperluan hidup lelaki tidak juga berkurangan walaupun belum lagi berkahwin. Ya, lelaki memang mendatangkan bahagia. Tetapi lelaki juga mendatangkan sengsara. Namun jika kita bijak menatangnya, semuanya pasti baik-baik sahaja. Itulah adat dalam perhubungan. Yang buruk-buruk pasti ada. Barangkali daripada si dia, barangkali juga daripada kita, tetapi kita harus cermat mengimbangkannya agar jodoh berkekalan ke hari tua.

Bagi yang sedang galak bercinta dengan lelaki permata jiwa tetapi menerima tentangan keluarga dua pihak, jika anda fikir anda tidak mungkin mampu hidup bahagia tanpa restu ibu bapa, maka ada baiknya anda menyerah kalah saja. Walaupun tidak saling memiliki, dan cinta tidak juga diwali dan dinikahi, anda dan dia tetap pengantin di dalam jiwa. Barangkali sudah sampai masanya anda mencari sahaja lelaki lain untuk dibawa pulang menemui ibu bapa.

Bercakap soal kahwin, beberapa kenalan rapat yang dewasa bersama-sama. sejak zaman gatal-menggatal kenyit mengenyit kala di bangku pengajian, kini sudah disunting, dan bakal menjadi isteri kepada lelaki yang mereka cintai. Semoga mereka tak tersalah pilih. Dan semoga lelaki yang dipilih, melaksanakan tanggungjawab dan melunaskan hak suami isteri. Wanita, kita dicipta dengan kemuliaan syahadah. Kerana benih seorang lelaki, kita ini tersenyawa, dikurnia tenaga sehingga kita mampu menyibak jalan keluar dari rahim ibu untuk melihat dunia . Kerana benih seorang lelaki, kita ini ditiupkan jiwa, menjadi manusia, dan mencari seorang lelaki untuk dicintai, sebagaimana ibu diilhamkan Tuhan untuk berkasih sayang dengan bapa.

Dan kerana Tuhan yang Maha Kuasa dan Maha Pencipta, kita wanita, kita ini diciptakan daripada lengkungan rusuk kiri lelaki,tidak terlalu gagah sehingga mengenepi kudrat lelaki, tidak juga terlalu lemah sehingga jatuh menyembah kaki. Tetapi kerana ciptaan Tuhan itu indah, kita terbit daripada rusuk lelaki, bukan dekat kepala untuk dijunjungi, bukan dekat bahu untuk membebani, bukan dekat lengan untuk dijulangi, bukan dekat jari untuk disakiti, bukan dekat pinggul untuk dihenyaki, bukan dekat lutut untuk ditindihi, bukan dekat kaki untuk ditunggangi, tetapi dekat pelusuk hati untuk dimulia, disayangi dan dicintai.

Andai lelaki itu burung yang terbang, kita adalah angin lembut yang bersisir-sisiran sepanjang perjalanannya. Tetapi kerana fitrah kejadian Tuhan wanita itu kebergantungan hidupnya harus saja diserahkan kepada seorang lelaki yang boleh melindungi, maka kita pun tidak selamanya mahu menjadi angin semata-mata. Kita mahu menjadi bunga, menghias sayapnya. Kita mahu terus bersama-sama, terbang dari rendah perkebunan bunga sehingga ke sayup langit terbuka, sehingga jalannya yang paling hujung, sehingga kita tua, rapuh dan mati. Tetapi kita bahagia dalam dakapannya.Semoga kita semua diketemukan dengan jodoh yang baik..InsyaAllah...

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A STORY....

Daddi Can you give me 10$ ?


A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5 year old son waiting for him at the door.
"Daddy, may I ask you a question?"
"Yeah, sure, what is it?" replied the man.
"Daddy, how much money do you make an hour?"
"That's none of your business! What makes you ask such a thing?" the man said angrily.
"I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?" pleaded the little boy.
"If you must know, I make $20.00 an hour."
"Oh, " the little boy replied, head bowed. Looking up, he said, "Daddy, may I borrow $10.00 please?"
The father was furious. "If the only reason you want to know how much money I make is just so you can borrow some to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you're being so selfish. I work long, hard hours everyday and don't have time for such childish games."
The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door. The man sat down and started to get even madder about the little boy's questioning. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money. After an hour or so , the man had calmed down, and started to think he may have been a little hard on his son. May be there was something he really needed to buy with that $10.00 and he really didn't ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door. "Are you asleep son?" he asked.
"No daddy, I'm awake," replied the boy.
"I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier," said the man. "It's been a long day and I took my aggravation out on you. Here's that $10.00 you asked for."
The little boy sat straight up, beaming. "Oh, thank you daddy!" he yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow, he pulled out some more crumpled up bills. The man, seeing that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, then looked up at the man.
"Why did you want more money if you already had some?" the father grumbled.
"Because I didn't have enough, but now I do," the little boy replied. "Daddy, I have $20.00 now... Can I buy an hour of your time?"

BEAUTY...??

As a group, women do a really good job of hiding our less attractive qualities. We cover up our imperfections with makeup, we squeeze our “winter weight” into some Spanx, and we make our friends take our phones away so the guy we’re crushing on doesn’t know how crazy we really are.
And that is only scratching the surface.
Because men look at us like pretty, little, delicate flowers, there are so many things about women that most guys just do not know. Things that most women would be horrified to share and most men would be even more disgusted to know. But you know what? I don’t care. Women are people, too, and if guys can walk around scratching their balls, then we should be able to lay it all out there, too.
So in an effort to bridge the gap between the boys and the girls, I thought I’d let some dudes in on a few secrets we ladies have been keeping for.e.verrrr.
1. We fart. And sometimes, it’s loud. And if we’re trying to eat really healthy, it’s smelly.
2. We poop. We may even bring magazines or a laptop in there to pass the time. And if we’re really comfortable with someone, we’ll catch up on the phone. But always with a warning. We may be good at multitasking, but we aren’t inconsiderate a-holes.
3. We talk about farts and poop. And we laugh, because farts and poop are funny.
4. We don’t shower every day. We may argue that it’s bad for our skin or our hair looks better greasy, but sometimes we just don’t feel like showering. So we put on some deodorant and a few extra sprays of perfume and call it a day.
5. We like porn, too. Some of us like it more than others, and we probably don’t spend as much time watching it as dudes, but even ladies like watching a little nookie sometimes. Especially nookie involving a hot guy with chiseled abs, a tight butt and a rock hard glistening chest….
Oh, sorry. Got a little sidetracked there for a moment.
6. We can probably eat more than guys. Some ladies may stick to salads or half-portions of pasta when the guys are around, but bring us a cheese pizza and we can down that thing like it’s nobody’s business. And then we’ll follow it up with something chocolatey. Or fried. And not even break a sweat.
There you have it. All our secrets, right there on the table.
I feel so….free.

36 RANDOM FACTS ABOUT WOMEN...

1. The word “woman” is believed to have derived from the Middle English term wyfman, broken down simply as the wife (wyf) of man. In Old English, women were described simply as wyf, while the term man was used to describe a human person, regardless of gender.c
2. The English word “girl” was initially used to describe a young person of either sex. It was not until the beginning of the sixteenth century that the term was used specifically to describe a female child.c
3. The biological sign for the female sex, a circle placed on top of a small cross, is also the symbol for the planet Venus. The symbol is believed to be a stylized representation of the Roman goddess Venus’ hand mirror.d
4. While many stars and moons are christened with female names, Venus is the only planet in our solar system given the name of a female goddess.d


5. The breasts of human women are much larger in proportion than those of other female mammals. The prominent size, while not necessary for milk production, is most likely a result of sexual selection.a
6. The English language originally delineated between women in different stages of life with the terms “maiden,” “mother,” and “crone.” A maiden referred to a young girl who was unmarried, a mother referred to a woman in her child-bearing years, and a crone described a post-menopausal woman.c
7. The average height of a woman in the U.S. is approximately 5 feet 4 inches, and the average weight is about 163 pounds. These figures vary greatly throughout the world, due to differences in nutrition and prenatal care.a
8. In almost every country worldwide, the life expectancy for women is higher than for men.g
9. While the population of males is slightly greater than females worldwide (98.6 women for every 100 men), there are roughly four million more women than men in the U.S. In the age 85-and-older category, there are more than twice as many women as men currently living in the U.S.h
10. The most common cause of death for American women is heart disease, which causes just over 27% of all mortalities in females. Cancer ranks just below, causing 22% of female deaths.a
11. Worldwide, women are nearly twice as likely to be blind or visually impaired as men. Experts attribute this difference to the greater longevity of women (leading to more age-related visual impairment) and specific eye diseases that are intrinsically more common in women such as dry eye syndrome and Fuch’s Dystrophy.a
12. Depression is the most common cause of disability in women, and approximately 25% of all women will experience severe depression at some point in their lives.a
13. Over 90% of all cases of eating disorders occur in women, and nearly seven million women in the U.S. currently suffer from anorexia nervosa or bulimia.a
14. Approximately one in five women worldwide reports being sexually abused before the age of 15.a
15. About 14 million adolescent girls become pregnant each year, with over 90% of those girls living in developing countries.a





About 1,600 women die each day as result of pregnancy or childbirth complications



16. Each day 1,600 women die as result of pregnancy or childbirth complications. Nearly 99% of these deaths occur in developing nations.a
17. Approximately 95% of all women in the U.S. have been married at least once by the age of 55.h
18. Of the 154.7 million women currently living in the U.S., nearly 83 million are mothers.h
19. The probability of a woman giving birth to a baby girl instead of a baby boy increases significantly the nearer the mother lives to the equator. While the cause of this gender selection is unknown, scientists believe the constant sunlight hours and abundant food supply in tropical regions may favor female births.e
20. Approximately 5.6 million women in the U.S. reported themselves as stay-at-home moms in a 2007 census report.h
21. The first Mother’s Day was held on May 10, 1908, and was organized by Anna Jarvis in West Virginia and Philadelphia. As the event gained popularity throughout the country, Congress designated the second Sunday in May as a national day of recognition for mothers in 1914.b
22. International Women’s Day is held each year on March 8. The annual event was first observed worldwide in 1909.h
23. In the U.S., Congress established a national week of recognition for women’s history in 1981. This recognition, held during the second week of March, was later expanded into a full month by a congressional resolution in 1987. The month of March is now designated as National Women’s History Month.h





One-third of American women aged 25 to 29 have earned a college degree



24. According to a 2007 Census Bureau report, one-third of American women aged 25 to 29 have earned a bachelor’s or advanced college degree.h
25. More American women work in the education, health services, and social assistance industries than in any other industry. These three industries employ nearly one-third of all female workers.h
26. Women in the U.S. labor force currently earn just over 77 cents for every one dollar men earn.h
27. Approximately 14% of active members in the U.S. armed forces today are women. In 1950, women comprised less than two percent of the U.S. military.h
28. The first woman to run for U.S. president was Victoria Woodhull, who campaigned for the office in 1872 under the National Woman’s Suffrage Association. While women would not be granted the right to vote by a constitutional amendment for nearly 50 years, there were no laws prohibiting a woman from running for the chief executive position.b
29. The first female governor of a U.S. state was Wyoming governor Nellie Tayloe Ross, elected in 1924. Wyoming was also the first state to give women the right to vote, enacting women’s suffrage in 1869.b
30. The first country to grant women the right to vote in the modern era was New Zealand in 1893.f
31. The first woman to rule a country as an elected leader in the modern era was Sirimavo Bandaranaike of Sri Lanka, who was elected as prime minister of the island nation in 1960 and later re-elected in 1970.f
32. Women currently hold 17% of Congressional and Senate seats and 18% of gubernatorial positions in the U.S.h
33. According to an ancient Sumerian legend, the universe was created by a female, the goddess Tiamat. This role of a female creator is not unique, as the Australian Aboriginal creation myth also credits the creation of life to a woman.d
34. The earliest recorded female physician was Merit Ptah, a doctor in ancient Egypt who lived around 2700 B.C. Many historians believe she is the first woman recorded by name in the history of all of the sciences.d
35. A person’s gender is biologically determined by the sex chromosomes, one set of a human’s 23 pairs of chromosomes. Women have two X chromosomes, while men have one X and one Y chromosome.a
36. The world’s first novel, The Tale of Genji, was published in Japan around A.D. 1000 by female author Murasaki Shikibu.d